The Emporium Gazette
Issue 46 -- February 2003

Alien Sex or What To Do When Partner Isn't Human
by Bob Nailor

Sure, you've just finished watching one of the popular sci-fi shows and there was a scene where one of the regular cast had a pseudo sensual love scene with a quasi-human. His arms enwrapped her body, their lips locked in an intimate moment of bliss, face to face they are having that almost love session. Better than 99% of all alien contact that involves sex will be of a heterosexual nature; either species offering the male or female.

Have you noticed in the movies and on TV that most aliens are usually pretty humanoid? Ever wondered why? Easy. Alien actors are hard to come by unless computer graphics are used. Yet, for the writer, aliens are but a dime a dozen. A sex scene between a human and some sort of hybrid aardvark octopus isn't necessarily awkward to write, but could get complicated to convey in words.

It is our mind set. We can visualize a scene inside our brain but sometimes can't get the proper words to explain the intricacies of octopus tentacles with suckers and an aardvarklike tongue extended from its nose, to meld with our human counterpart. For the writer, placing the pulsing suction of the alien's suckers on her breasts and the thrust of his long narrow nose bringing her to screams should give your reader's imagination a bit of food for fodder. You could do a lot with tentacles, suckers, or nose whether the alien were male or female. However, if you want any hope to adapt your story to a Hollywood screenplay, you'd better stick with humanoids.

Of course, sex doesn't have to be necessarily with a space type alien. There are many other types that can be included in the mix: fairies, demons, robots, ghosts, Sasquatch, mermaids, and the list goes on.

Again, this list of possible love gods/goddesses will be humanoid and have the corresponding sexual anatomy necessary for the love scene. Do you remember Babylon 5 and the twelve sexual organs of the humanoid ambasador? Uninhibit your mind and imagine the power behind a coupling of that nature. One alone might be good for us, but think what it might have been like for him. This is where the art of writing and imagination can delve into the depths of wonder. This is where the alien doesn't have to be human in their sexuality.

What does this mean? Sex doesn't necessarily need to be sex as humans relate. Remember the movie "Cocoon" and the sex scene between Earthman Steve Guttenberg and Antarean Tahanee Welch? Steve experienced one heck of a sensation when Tahanee's character shared herself with him. Another instance would be "Starman" with Jeff Bridges and Karen Allen. Again, somehow, even though it is not fully explained, Karen becomes pregnant by Jeff and is now carrying his child.

Back in 1983 there was a television series entitled "V" about visitors from space. It revolved around aliens coming to our planet. There were a few angles that involved romance between these aliens and us. In fact, one story theme was about a young human girl, her alien boyfriend and their offspring.

Even if your non-human character is of the fanciful, demonic or mythological, the act itself can be described beyond the realms of mere mortals. Perhaps your mermaid and sailor can mate in the swirling waves of the ocean, your demon and innocent maiden make love in the throes of a fiery passion pit, or a leprechaun become full sized to exercise his manly acts. Use your imagination to give your non-human creation the best possible sex.

Now exactly how sensual and sexual the science fiction and/or fantasy story gets is each writers own decision. Usually sex, the act itself, is normally downplayed with the strategy of foreplay getting most of the attention. I am not saying that the story should be sanitized of sex but only if the act itself is important to the plot do you need to let your reader's libido run rampant. This is true of almost any element; IT MUST promote the story or plot.

Sex is the interlude and is best left to the imagination of the reader; build it up and then bask in the afterglow. Your reader can fill in the blanks if they know what it is about or it will be left as blanks if the reader is too young.

So let your characters come alive with sexuality and sensuality. It might be just what the doctor ordered to help you market your work.

Bob Nailor is author of "The Secret Voice," an Amish-Christian story, "Pangaea, Eden Lost," an adventure story, "Three Steps: The Journeys of Ayrold," a Celtic fantasy, and "2012: Timeline Apocalypse," an end-of-time tale. He is also included in several anthologies and collections. Check his website at

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